Have you ever heard the saying, “Change your mind, change your reality”? It can seem impossible sometimes to change how we look at our day, situations, even the people in our lives. We get into these set ways of being, of seeing, of reacting. These set ways over time become how we act and react to the world around us. We even get very negative, harmful and yucky intrusive thoughts. Many of these develop from people around us or unhealthy coping mechanisms. They can make us feel negative, angry and overwhelmed. This can lead to us feeling unfulfilled, resentful and even adopt a victim mentality. It never happens suddenly. This type of thing occurs over time, creeping in and becoming part of our personality without always being consciously aware of it. This isn't so much a MASK that we wear... More of a Hood or Filter that distorts how we Perceive our Reality. This needs to fall off in order for us to become more Self- Aware and take Control of our Mind in Healthy Ways.

How can we change something that is so pervasive?

Little bits at a time. That is how. Little steps make a whole lot of difference when combined over time. Little steps help us not become overwhelmed when looking at the “big picture”. Little steps are actions that we take to replace the old unhealthy foundations that make up our old mindset. This is how we Hack our Minds to become stronger and more resilient!

Step 1- Identify the negative self talk that creeps in throughout your day. Write it all down! It doesn’t matter if it is a small thought or if you feel it is justified. If it is negative, write it down. Learn to pay attention to the thoughts that come into your mind while working, doing chores, relaxing, drifting off to sleep, just waking up, etc… The More we are Aware of these thoughts, the More We Can Change Them!!

Step 2- Analyze this list. The first time I did this, I was surprised at just how horrible my self-criticism is. For me, this became a method of self preservation. I had adopted the mindset if I was overly critical of myself, it wouldn’t hurt when others were that way as well. Did it work? No, of course not. But it was something that at the time made me feel like I had some measure of control. All I was doing was making myself more miserable. I didn’t even realize it!

Step 3- Here is the hard part… For EVERYTHING on the list, write out a statement that Contradicts that negative statement. Be objective and keep emotion out of this step. It helps to be logical but not critical here. If you are having trouble with this part... Find someone to help! I am here if you don't have anyone close you want to ask for aid in this area.

Examples:

Negative– I failed doing this task at work, this means I am a failure. Contradiction– NO I am not a failure! I am learning something new and I made a Mistake. A Mistake does not mean I am a failure!

Negative– My child (toddler) is crying and screaming because I said No. I am a horrible Mom. Contradiction– I am setting boundaries and my toddler is still learning and doesn’t like the word NO. It is NORMAL and it happens to everyone! Kids do this! We are both learning together.

Negative– I am not good enough. Contradiction– List things you do well and things you try to do well.

Step 4- Keep the list with you everywhere. When one of those negative thoughts creeps in, find it on your list and tell yourself the Contradiction to combat that critical thought. Do this EVERY TIME you catch a thought crossing your mind. This constant Contradiction will actually help you re-wire your brain! This is how we can balance out the negative nelly thoughts with new and more helpful statements that prove we are so much better that we tend to believe. Every time we do this... We are creating Magick within our own Minds.

You can even get creative with this! Make art, write a story, etc.. that helps you FEEL the more Positive Statements! You can even create a character or put a name to the negative thoughts and then do a Banishing Ritual! You can use that name or character as a persona you can tell to "Go Away! Go F@#! Off!" Or anything else you want to say to help you make it go away for good. Each of these can be infused with YOUR Magick, YOUR Power, to help you make these changes more effectively.

Step 5-Always remember there is ALWAYS something GOOD in each Day. Even if it is something small. Look for it. Everyday. Look for something that is Good and Positive. Write those down. Just as we become aware of the negative things that go through our minds, we have to balance them out with positive things as well. The more we look for something positive, the more WE WILL SEE IT!

Find balance everywhere.

This is how we Hack our Minds and become more resilient! It takes time, it takes consistency!

I Love You. I Support You.

Always Remember,
You Are Loved,
You Are Valid,
You Are Accepted.

Love,

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